I’m sitting here, typing and reflecting on how 2016 went for me, and all I can say is, “WOW”. In short, 2016 has been one of the best years of my life. I’ve stepped into my power; I’ve declared proudly to the world who I am and what I stand for; I’ve begun building and living the life of my ultimate desires.
As I build and continue to build, I thought it would be a good learning opportunity to reflect on how things went for me in business, life, and other shenanigans, so that 2017 starts off strong. Why am I calling it the State of the Submissive? There are many reasons, but two big ones being that 1) I do what I want, and 2) I’m here to shift paradigms and show the world that identifying as a submissive (in the context of kink and BDSM) is not synonymous to weak or a doormat, but someone who is confident, independent, driven, and strong.
My theme for 2016 was Discovery.
What Went Well:
- I said yes to myself and my future and dove into the world of entrepreneurship.
- I found my spirituality and woo – shoutout to the Universe, Law of Attraction, manifesting, abundance, etc.
- I broke through so many self-limiting beliefs, assumptions, and money blocks.
- With the help of an EXTRAORDINARY transformational life and business coach, we built the Laid Bare, Inc. brand that represents everything about me: who I am, how I live and love, what I do, where I want to go, the people I desire to have in my tribe.
- I let go of relationships that needed to be let go.
- I cultivated AH-MAZ-ING relationships with people who inspire, support, and motivate me everyday, and have awesome goals of their own for the future.
- I’ve stopped living according to other people’s limiting beliefs.
- Mindset and discovery work that enabled me to not only think big, but the confidence and skills to make those plans come to life.
- I started trusting myself and listened to my intuition.
- I became less rigid and incorporated the beliefs of focusing on the What (not How), which allowed me to be open to opportunities I never dreamed of before.
- I learned the difference between planning and having a plan.
- I learned how to run a location-independent online business that doesn’t feel like work.
- I let go a lot of guilt.
- I learned how to market and sell in non-slimy ways.
- I learned it was okay to feel needy and have relationships be easy without associating negative connotations to those words.
- I figured out what my self-sabotaging characteristics were and learned when they popped up.
- I discovered that I didn’t need to work 8 hours a day/40 hours a week in order to be productive.
- I owned that I was really good at what I do even though I’m still “pretty young”.
- I invested in my growth as a person and entrepreneur.
- I celebrated both big and small wins and learned the importance of looking back at how much I’ve achieved instead of always looking forward and thinking how much more I had to do.
- I learned that living the life of my dreams doesn’t have to wait until I became “rich”. I incorporated small upgrades into my life that made me feel rich and abundant now.
What Could Be Improved:
- I didn’t work out consistently and eat as well as I should have.
- I didn’t read as many books as I would have liked.
- I wasn’t as disciplined as I would have liked with my schedule and timelines, because I set my own arbitrary deadlines and days.
- I didn’t finish a lot of my projects that I started.
- I wasn’t as “visible” about selling myself and my services as much as I wanted to due to limiting beliefs.
- In the beginning, I kept asking for others’ validation regarding business decisions, because I didn’t trust myself and didn’t want to fail.
- I didn’t travel to as many places as I wanted to.
- Asking for help in various situations rather than worrying that I’d be a burden to people.
- I didn’t “launch” a lot of projects due to analysis paralysis and/or being a perfectionist.
- My standards for what a “Minimum Viable Product” was essentially an MVP on steroids
Action Steps for 2017:
- Create a weekly schedule that focuses on blocking similar tasks together to minimize context switching so I don’t lose focus and time
- Create marketing and business goals/plans for 90 days at a time so that I can get my businesses out there in front of the right audiences
- Improve my confidence in selling by seeking guidance from experts
- Launch projects quicker by cutting tasks and timelines by at least 50%
- Block out days in my calendar to focus on self-care and growth
- Seek out accountability partners to help me stay disciplined.
Discovery was such a good theme for 2016:
- I learned so much about myself and my demons/skeletons
- How I wanted to run my businesses and live my life
- How powerful I am
- And most importantly that I am enough exactly as I am, laid bare
Lastly, I would like to take a moment to thank these wonderful ladies below, who have been integral to my success and sanity in 2016:
- Marissa Loewen: my spectacular transformational life and business coach, who has indeed transformed my life and business beyond anything I could have ever imagined. She is the best coach I could have ever asked for. In an industry where anyone can call themselves a coach, Marissa is truly a coach. I am truly grateful to have found her, work with her, and now call a dear friend. She was tough, challenged me, didn’t let me hide, and guided me through some deep demons and limiting beliefs, and showed me just how much I have within me to offer the world. There’s no sugar-coating with her, because excuses don’t exist in her world. She’s all about taking action and helped me craft business strategies that aligned with my zone of genius. Her marketing and selling skills are astounding; together, with her expertise, we came up with the Laid Bare, Inc. We made some pretty amazing progress, and I look forward to working with her in 2017!
- Meghan Maydel: my first online business friend! Don’t let her southern mannerisms fool you – she’s a tough cookie who tells it like it is. Thank you for your friendship, love, support, and wisdom. We supported each other through both of our many ups and downs this past year. Thank you for always being there for me. She’s a kickass sales funnel and marketing strategist for creative business owners!
- Kathy Campbell: my sidekick…my wonderful sidekick! She reached out over the internet only to find that we lived within 20 minutes of each other. Since then, we’ve grown so close as friends in and out of business. I looked forward to our weekly get-togethers so much, because as an online business, I admit to missing the physical presence of someone else. Kathy has helped me grow by taking on work that I could delegate to her. She’s such a strong person with a profound story. If you’re looking for a kickass virtual assistant to help you grow your business, Kathy’s your gal!
- Rebecca Graves Prowse: a powerhouse potter with a sassy attitude, Rebecca and I have spent countless hours chatting, masterminding, and brainstorming (often in the middle of the night) on how to grow as people and entrepreneurs. Her work ethic is awe-inspiring, and I’m so lucky I got to meet her in person for a few days to work and have fun. Her latest venture is a line of ceramic sex toys that focuses on pleasure and safety. Thank you helping me grow so much! I can’t wait to see what 2017 brings for you!
All right 2017, I’m ready for you. The theme for 2017 is Growth.
No more hiding. No more wishing. No more living according to society’s standards. I’ve stripped off those layers of expectations, paradigms, and things that don’t serve me. I get to play by my own rules now.
I’m laid bare and ready to kick ass (clothing optional).