
Dominance Submission Basics: What does it mean to be submissive?
The Dominance and submission dance is extremely complex, yet it’s a relationship dynamic that many seek out. When done right with everyone involved, it can easily be one of the most extremely fulfilling relationships in the kink and BDSM world. There are tons of...

Ask the Sub: Can I be feminist and submissive?
Hi Veronica, I'm feeling really conflicted lately. I feel like I have submissive tendencies, but at the same time, I'm a hardcore feminist. Is it possible to be both? How do I reconcile these feelings of ambivalence? Thanks, Frazzled Femininst This question hits home...

How Disney Shaped My Kinkiness
A question I get asked quite a bit is, “How did you know you were kinky?” I actually love answering this question, because I find it to be the conversation that not only establishes trust between people (because let’s be real, most of these stories begin when you’re...

Ask the Sub: Can you get STIs from sharing sex toys?
“Hi Veronica, I love incorporating toys when I have sex, especially dildos and vibrators. I also enjoy having sex with multiple partners #varietyFTW. All my partners and I get tested regularly. But just wondering, is it possible to get STIs from sharing dildos?...

Ask the Sub: Husband + Butt Plug = Gay?
“Hi Veronica, Thank you for having your Ask the Sub segment. I’ve been wanting to ask someone this question for a while now, but the thought of actually voicing it scares me. Here goes: I’ve been married to my husband for 9 years, and we’re very happy together. The...

5 Signs You’re More Kinky (In Bed) Than You Think
Here’s the thing, no matter how much you know a topic, or are immersed in it tits deep, you’re always learning a new thing or five about it everyday. Take me for instance — the most common thing I hear from people after they ask me about my kinkiness is: “I could...

State of the Submissive: 2016 Year-End Review on Business, Life, and other Shenanigans
I’m sitting here, typing and reflecting on how 2016 went for me, and all I can say is, “WOW”. In short, 2016 has been one of the best years of my life. I’ve stepped into my power; I’ve declared proudly to the world who I am and what I stand for; I’ve begun building...

Blog Cherry Popped! (The First Post)
Passion. It’s a funny thing. All my life I’ve had my teachers, mentors, friends, and family tell me to find my passion and to follow it. And then, when push comes to shove, sometimes that passion is put on hold in favor of doing something that’s financially “smart”,...